September 7, 2019
Overton Funeral Home
Overton Funeral Home, Traer
Roger Stoakes, 70, died Monday, September 2 at Unity Point Hospice from complications of chronic kidney disease. Services will be held at 11 A.M. Saturday, September 7 at the Overton Funeral Home in Traer, Iowa, led by Pastor Emma Peterson. Friends may greet the family before the ceremony at 10 A.M. Burial will be at Buckingham Cemetery at a later date. Memorial contributions in Roger’s honor may be sent to his family. Friends may sign the online guestbook, www.overtonfuneralhomes.com.
Roger Hugh Stoakes was born March 30, 1949 at Allen Memorial Hospital in Waterloo, Iowa to George Robert and Nadine Stoakes. He graduated from Dysart Geneseo High School in 1967. Roger attended Iowa State University where he met and married Jane Light. After graduation, they returned to Traer where Roger began farming. A son, Adam, was born on April 7, 1974. In 1987, Roger left the farm and began working for Farmer’s Home Administration in Toledo, Iowa. In 1991, he transferred to an office in Tipton, Iowa, working in Rural Development, where he remained until his retirement in 2007. In 1993, he married Patricia Nielsen. During their marriage, Roger and Pat welcomed Victoria Konavalenko, Joel Moise and Juvenary Hakizimana into their family.
Roger grew up on the same family farm as his father. Like many Iowans, farming chores and using farming equipment was an important, sustaining part of his life. He often used farming imagery in his conversations and easily recalled specific types of machinery and farm procedures. He practiced the farmer’s ethic of fixing and repairing items himself rather than calling a repairman. He eventually left farming but the farm, especially the family farm, remained embedded in his character. In 1989, he and Pat rode RAGBRAI for the first time. Bikes began to share the garage space and biking became an important past time. He loved his trike and eventually added battery power so he could continue to ride as his strength diminished. He rode several times in the last two months of his life.
Roger was a quiet, compassionate man with a generous heart. He gently but firmly guided the younger members of his household offering support and encouragement. He had a strong sense of who he was; that inner strength drew others to him.
Roger is survived by his wife, Pat, four children, son, Adam, his wife Ellen and their son, Liam, daughter, Vika, son, Joel and son, Juvenary, his wife Heather and their children, Vera, Patrick and Rena, a brother, Dennis Stoakes and his wife, Sharon and their children, John and his wife, Dawn, and their children Levi and Luke, Bill and his wife Corindy and their children Brooks, Libby and Molly, and Sara Kvidera and her husband Taylor, brother-in-law Don Sievers and his children, Darren, his wife Marne and their children Megan and Riley, and Renee Cossman, her husband Joe and their children Colin and Logan, sister-in-law Penny Stoakes and her son Chris Stoakes and family, sister-in-law, Joan Menefee and her daughter, Carrie and her husband Erik and their children Josie and Megan, cousin Eleazar Stoakes, and family, cousin Ruth Calderwood, husband Bill and family, cousin Carol Fuller-Bruene and husband Charles, cousin Gwyneth Augustine and her husband Ed, cousin Miriam Kenning and her husband, Greg and other cousins. Roger’s family was a source of strength; he treasured the time he spent with them. He also valued dear friends in Cedar Rapids and Iowa City.
The family extends heartfelt thanks to Roger’s excellent caregivers: his nephrologist, Rebecca Hegeman and dialysis nurses, Melissa, Rusty and Sandy, social worker, Carrie and dietitian, Emily at the University of Iowa Hospital; the ICU nurses, doctors and staff and the hospice nurses, doctors and staff at Unity Point, St. Luke’s; and the dialysis nurses and doctors at Unity Point, St Luke’s.
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